Because February Resolutions Stick Better Anyway

Let’s face it, January resolutions can be overrated. If you’re reading this, chances are you either didn’t set any or already let a few slip—and that’s okay. Studies show that resolutions started in February actually last longer, and when it comes to your sex life and relationships, what matters is making intentional changes, not following the January hype.

So, let’s get real: What do you actually want in 2025? Deeper intimacy? A more satisfying sex life? Better communication with your partner? A fresh start with your sexual health? Whatever it is, setting clear, realistic goals is the key to making it happen.

Start With the Right Questions

Before setting any goals, take a moment to reflect. Ask yourself:

• What does a fulfilling sex life mean to me?
• Am I happy with my current relationship dynamic?
• What do I want more (or less) of in my intimate life?
• What’s stopping me from fully enjoying sex and connection?

If you’re in a relationship, bring your partner into this. Honest conversations can be a game-changer. And we know that getting these types of conversations going can be tricky, we’ve got a few prompts to get you started. 

• What’s one thing you love about our sex life, and what’s one thing you’d like to explore more?
• What makes you feel most desired?
• Are there any fantasies or desires you haven’t shared yet?

Getting clear on what you want will help you set the right goals—ones that actually matter to you.

Simplify Your Goal (and Avoid Failure)

People tend to overcomplicate goals, making them harder to achieve. So why not make things a touch easier.

First, write down your goal. 

(Example: I want to feel more connected to my partner and have a more exciting sex life.)

Then, list how you could fail at it:

• Never talking about sex or intimacy.
• Avoiding quality time together.
• Assuming your partner knows what you want without telling them.
• Sticking to the same routine every time.

Now, flip those failures into actions that set you up for success:
✔️ Prioritize open conversations about sex and connection.
✔️ Schedule intentional quality time (yes, even if it’s putting a date night in your calendar).
✔️ Express your desires instead of expecting your partner to read your mind.
✔️ Try something new—whether it’s a new position, a different kind of foreplay, or adding sensory elements like leather or restraints.

Make Your Resolutions Measurable

A goal like “Have better sex” is vague. While a goal like “Try one new thing each month” is specific and trackable. Let’s break it down:

If your goal is to communicate better about sex:

• Find a tool that could offer some help (a podcast, book, or a card deck like Please’s Connection Cards).
• Set a regular check-in (weekly, monthly, whatever works for you) with your partner to talk about what’s working and what’s not.
• Get in the habit of checking in during sex—ask questions like, “Does this feel good?” “Want me to keep going?”
  
  

If your goal is to try new things in the bedroom:

• Pick one new experience per month (e.g. a new position, a new location, a new toy).
• Take turns choosing something to explore together.
• Read one book or article, or watch a show/documentary about sex and intimacy to spark ideas.
  
  

💡 If your goal is to prioritize your sexual health:

• Book an STI check-up (set a reminder in your phone).
• Research and invest in body-safe products, like non-toxic lubes and condoms.
• Learn about self-testing options like FAMKA for at-home STI screening.

It will all come down to your personal goals and tailoring your game plan together, to achieve these goals in a way that works for both you and your partner.

Remember that it’s about progress, not perfection

Your sex life and relationships don’t need a full makeover overnight. Small, consistent changes are what actually lead to long-term improvements.

Start with one goal, make it clear and measurable, and build from there. The key is to approach it with curiosity and playfulness rather than pressure.

So, what’s one change you’re committing to in 2025? Whether it’s about pleasure, connection, or confidence, you deserve a year full of joy, exploration, and satisfaction.